Valentines...

One of my birthday wishes last year is to find love before i'm 30.... It was in June... by September, i got to know somebody and by November ....i did found love.... :)

It was definitely not love at first sight.. You see, previously, i had this pre-conceived notions on how my other half would be.. I have this set of *rules* in my mind.. i live by it.. i breathe by it and swear that i will only want a person with those qualities..and without those set of qualities, it'll be impossible for me to love.. or even fell in love with that person in the first place...

However, it all went down the drain... the moment i met this person... At first glance, physically this person is soo not my type... even my friends said so... at that time i didn't know how's that person like in real life....

One fine day, by chance we met... Sparks didn't fly... mutual pleasantries were exchanged and favours were met... i did a favor by helping send that person back to the office... and along the journey we talked...

A few hours and a glass of pasembal tea later, having quite good conversation ..we parted our own ways... and promised to have a proper date next time.... I had this rule in my mind.. if a person likes me after the first meeting, that person will text or call me first.. i was not really counting on it at first.. after i closed the door.. drove a block, i received an sms.... it was from that person.... asking for a date with me the next day... and i agree... hesitantly at first... the only thing why i did agree was because that i think i can hold a decent conversation with this person... :)... so we went out the next day... and the next day.. and the next day and the rest is history......

The thing why i like this person is, because this person can accept me for who i am.. i know it sounds cliche.. but yes.. it is really true.. this person have seen me when i'm with my friends and this person knows how i'm like.. my mood swings.. my incoherent ramblings... everything.. and this person can accept it and LOVE it even more......

Look, when we are in relationship, we tend NOT to be ourselves... we tend to be the person whom we thought that this person will like.. and in that process, we didn't actually know whether this person likes us for who we are or likes the character that we are charading around.. pretending to be this perfect person... whilst we're not!!!!.... and let me tell you that i've been in that kind of relationship... it is tiring and this person will eventually know that you are not your true self..still, those type ofrelationships can survive.. albeit for a short period of time.....

I'm not making myself into another Oprah.. haha... I can tell you 1001 reason why i cant be with this person.. the things that annoys me the most and there's LOTS of them.... and i bet that this person feels the same way bout me as well.. haha...

But in the end.. its true.. its not the looks that counts.. its not the body nor the size...its not the pockets that counts..

Its the effort.... both parties effort to keep this going.. effort to maintain the relationship.. effort to sustain the relationship.... and the support that were given on both sides....

It is that simple... as we can know when a person is really into us, that person will make effort...

However, the journey is still long...eventhough it has only been a few months *3 months to be exact*.. it has been the longest relationship that i've ever been ..... haha...

So thats it. although we don't celebrate Valentine's Day.. I know that this person will always be MY Valentine... *well at least until next Valentine hopefully.. haha*

p.s: flower's so overrated..give me chocolates anytime!!....